H C Singh

Love Of Parents for Children is Divine

As parents are the real and only gods, at least gods on the earth, so parents love for children is the most selfless. They will not eat till their children have eaten, they will not sleep till their tiny tots have slept. The starving mother will feed her child from her dry breasts even though she has not taken a morsel for days. If children fall and get hurt, the physical pain is of the child but psychological pain, which is even far more severe, is of parents. If children are away for more than usual time the parents suffer the pain of separation and start feeling the worst even though children might be playing in a neighborhood home, or  little distance away.


          Similarly, children who have imbided love and affection in good measure love their parents, particularly old parents, helpless parents, parents suffering from so many infirmities, and other sufferings due to loss of property, source of independent income, insecurity etc.


          Conflict in our social life arises and arises too often when old parents, young wife and small children have equal and simultaneous demands on a person’s love; even his sisters demand more than equal love and attention than due to beloved wife, particularly the unmarried young sisters. Under these circumstances it is really a tough time for the person who is decent civilized and in love with his parents, his children, his wife and his younger sisters. For one who is unscrupulous and without love it is easy to discard his parents and sisters and be devoted though superficially to his wife and children because essentially he is in love with only himself, which is not love but selfishness bordering meanness.


          The success of the man in love with all around him depends on resolving these conflicts amicably without at least minimum possible hurt to the feelings of any of the conflicting parties devoting equal measure of his love and devotion. Who needs more love particularly at the time of the crisis, the ailing mother on deathbed or the young wife. There are cases not as simple as the above one where decision is very difficult and requires firm foundation in love and decency and selflessness. These are the qualities in that man, who loves and becomes love personified, which resolve such complex social and psychological problems, which no amount of teaching and training can give simple and straight solution. One has to find the solution with faith and devotion in goodness, love and selflessness.  




November 9, 2009 Posted by | Love | Leave a comment


Love is ability to sacrifice ones own interest for the one whom one loves; Love is to feel for one whom one loves; love is subline feeling of wishing always good of one whom one loves; love is to ignore the faults of one whom one loves; love is to suffer silently and deliberately for the well being of one whom one loves. Love above all is subline sentiment that is embedded in the nature of the man for excellence, who can sacrifice his own personal interest, his own welfare, his own ego for the one whom one loves. Love is spontaneous and selfless without regard to any contraction or even praise or acknowledgement.


          If one can have this quality of selflessness and feeling for others then alone one can love – his parent who have given him life and brought him up after unknown  sacrifices; his brothers and sisters who have during his childhood and thereafter shared his joys and sorrows; his friends in school, college and neighborhood who have stood by him through thick and thin; his beloved who as ones first love in adolescent years, whether one has succeeded in having the beloved as life companion or not, his wife who has given him love and children whether one has loved her before marriage or not; his children whether they are healthy or not, beautiful or not, intelligent or not, successful or not. Love for ones country, culture and mother tongue is as significant as any other love, whether the country is rich or poor whether it had given him much, little or nothing. Similarly love for mother tongue and culture, whether the language is developed or not whether culture is superior or equal to other cultures of the world or not.


          To sum up: love is absence of greed so that one is not envious or jealous of others wealth, property or high status in society. Love is absence of ego-feeling that one is supreme in one aspect of life or other. Love is absence of hatred even for known bad characters.


          Thus love is greatest virtue; it is doing greatest good to those whom one loves. Love of humanity and help to needy human beings is greatest religion and highest morality.





November 5, 2009 Posted by | Love | | Leave a comment